Anonymous asked: I'm 19 and have never had a relationship or kissed a boy either. But unlike you I'm afraid to have one because I feel like I don't know how to have a relationshipI know that sounds silly but it goes deeper than that. Like I really want to be a mom and I know you do to. But I'm also really scared of being a mom one day because I've never had younger siblings or any little kids in my life. I'm afraid I don't know how to live. Any thoughts on this ? Ha
I’ve never been in a relationship, never had a real kiss either. It’s okay. Everything in life shapes you. Living through not knowing is the only way to know. You have to choose the thing before you understand. You will be a good mother. Do you love someone now? Does someone love you? You already have what you need inside you. Think of the things you most love about your childhood. Sunday afternoon cake or books before bed or how your parents took you to the lake every summer. Someday, you will claim these traditions as framework and build new rituals alongside them. To love, I say this: choose the one you love, day in and day out. Hold them until their bones are as dear as your own, until you can draw their shape with your eyes closed. Fighting is not bad if you’re fighting for each other. You have a relationship by saying, I choose you everyday. I fight for you, everyday. I love you, everyday, when the love comes in golden afternoons and kisses like strawberries, and when it comes in empty hours and broken moments. Times of swollen abundance and times raked raw. Replant, replant. Water your broken places, sow forgiveness. Famine is not an option. Love is what roots you, choice is what feeds that love. Someday, you will love a man and he will love you, and your love will be bread and wine, dusk sunlight on your skin, deep draughts of mountain air. You drink this in cupped palms and teach your children where to find water. You already have what you need, you carry it inside. x
Reblogging this for the response, just wow. Yes.